2018 ended in a whirlwind and 2019 is here. Have you thought about your resolutions for the new year? Are you someone that makes resolutions every year and never follows through with them? Or have you stopped making resolutions altogether because they are too daunting and seem impossible?
I’m here to tell you that goals and resolutions are not impossible; they can be very rewarding and give you a sense of purpose. If you’ve been following along with our blogs over the last few months, we’ve been discussing motivation and goal setting. If you haven’t read them, I suggest taking a gander because they give great insight into how we as human beings are motivated and different types of motivation that influence us.
But why do we suddenly want to change when the year changes? What’s the big deal? You aren’t a new person once midnight strikes on January 1st. The history of resolutions actually goes back 4,000 years to the ancient Babylonians returning borrowed objects and paying debts every year when the crops were planted. Resolutions have evolved over the last 4,000 years, but the idea behind them has stayed the same: to improve your quality of life. Let that sink in for a minute.
Now let’s reflect on your current quality of life. Are you satisfied with your fitness levels? What about your eating habits? Do you work too much? Do you spend enough time with your family and friends? Are you too tired or busy to participate in recreational activities you used to enjoy? Are you meeting your financial goals?
So many people want to reinvent themselves every year, but change isn’t instantaneous, it takes months, even years. If you are dissatisfied with some part of your life, it may be time to reevaluate things across the board. Take the time to sit down and look at what is truly important to you and set a plan on how you can achieve this.
When you do start making your plan, look at why you haven’t met your goals in the past. Was it a time issue? Were you too tired? Did you burn yourself out right away? Look at these obstacles and make note of them.
Also consider the positive steps you took to meet your goals. Maybe you started cooking more at home and had more energy to play with your kids. Or you started sleeping better at night. Just because you didn’t meet that one goal doesn’t mean the resolution was a failure. Your quality of life still improved, just differently than you originally anticipated. Maybe instead of completely reinventing yourself, consider how you can improve yourself and continue the positive changes you’ve made in the past.
Instead of “New Year, New Me”, think: “New Year, Improved Me”.